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The Public Speaker, It’s a Small World After All

It's a Small World After All

This is The Public Speaker: Quick and Dirty Tips For Improving Your Communication Skills . With your host, Lisa B. Marshall.

This episode is sponsored by The Wall Street Journal. Now you can support the The Public Speaker podcast and get one of the best business newspapers in the nation delivered to your home or office. To get two weeks free, visit the The Public Speaker page at QuickandDirtyTips.com and click on the Wall Street Journal ad to start your subscription today.

My mother-in-law, Maria, lives in Central America, but right now she's visiting with us. As much I enjoy having her here, we always tend to have difficulties communicating.

Here's an example conversation between us: Me: Hey, want something to eat?Her: Oh, good morning. How did you sleep?Me: Fine. What would you like for breakfast?Her: Hmm, what are you having?Me: Oatmeal. What do you want?Her: Well, oatmeal sounds good.Me: Don't you usually have toast and cottage cheese? Would you prefer that?Her: Well, I eat oatmeal too.Me: Would you like toast and cottage cheese?Her: Oh, thank you very much, I'd love that!As the conversation continues, each of us becomes more and more exasperated. I just want her to tell me directly, what she wants for breakfast, while she wants me to focus on our social relationship, the morning greeting ritual, and consensus.

Differing Cultural Expectations I know why this happens. Based on our cultural upbringing, we each have different communication expectations. And even though I am aware of our cultural differences, communication can still be difficult. But, I've found that understanding these differences seems to help. Maria, comes from a culture where social relationships are very important and people are expected to fulfill societal roles. For her, community, respect for position, and greetings are all very important.

I, on the other hand, come from a family culture where most of communication is task-centered. Decisions and activities focus around what needs to be done. Words are very direct.

My poor husband, Armando, hears it from both sides. I say to him, "I wish she would just tell me directly what she wants or needs. I can't stand the guessing game." And of course, Maria complains to Armando too. "Lisa doesn't even say good morning or ask how I am doing. Can't she at least greet me properly? Why is she so rude?" What I've noticed, is that our family situation is playing out more and more in the community around me. At work, at school, and even in our immediate families many different cultures are represented. It really is a small world, and it seems it's getting even smaller. If you want to work, play, and communicate more effectively it helps to understand cultural communication differences.

I recognize that no two people from the same culture will respond in the same way, but generalizations can help, in the sense that they are clues. This episode is intended to help you understand how culture impacts communication.

There's a model for cultural communication that I've found very helpful in framing the differences between my mother-in-law and myself. It was developed by an anthropologist named Edward Hall. He talked about the idea of high- and low-context communication cultures. Hall said that in high-context communication, in general, many things are left unsaid. And cultures that favor low-context communication will pay more attention to the literal meanings of words than to the context surrounding them.

High-context Communication In high-context communication, people are relational, collectivist, and intuitive. Less is verbally explicit or written. It is often used in long term, well-established relationships that depend on trust. Group harmony and consensus are preferred over individual achievement.

In general, context is more important than the words. This means subtleties in the tone of voice, facial expression, gestures, posture, and even the family's history and status all carry significant parts of the conversation. Talk around the point (not to the point) is typical.

Low-context Communication In low-context communication, people value logic, facts, and directness. People are individualistic and action-oriented. Discussions are based on facts and end with actions. Communicators are expected to be concise and efficient. People strive for precise words and intend them to be taken literally.

One thing that I think is important to note is that everyone uses both high-context and low-context communication at different times. Your cultural background, relationships, and circumstances dictate the extent to which you rely on the literal or the implied meanings.

Sequential or Synchronic Time Another cultural difference that affects communication is time. Some cultures view time synchronically. It is viewed as a force that can't be controlled; it's just a constant flow to be experienced. While other cultures think of time sequentially, a commodity to spend or save.

During one business trip I had meetings in both Germany and Spain. The difference between the countries in relationship to time was striking. In Germany, the meeting schedule was very precise; including start, end, and break times. And those times were very strictly adhered to. I still remember how surprised I was when the break time arrived and the speaker stopped talking quite abruptly. When I was in Spain it seemed almost like the opposite. Although the meeting was scheduled to start at 9:30, most attendees didn't start arriving until 10:30 or so. This was followed by an hour of socializing and then around noon, we finally starting talking about the business at hand.

So what's the bottom line? When it comes to communication, what's proper and correct in one culture may be ineffective or even offensive in another. Our culture tells us what is normal or what is strange or wrong. Of course, no one culture is right or wrong, or better or worse. They're just different. The key to successful cross-cultural communication is to develop an understanding and respect for the differences.

This is the Lisa B. Marshall. Passionate about communication your success is my business.

Hey gang, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to check out the free bonus resources I included in the administrative section of the transcript. Be sure not to miss the very interesting cross-cultural faux pas stories I included.

Need Your Help or perhaps you'd write an iTunes review. Also, if you've been enjoying The Public Speaker it would be great if you would consider voting for the show for the 2008 Podcast Awards at http://podcastawards.com/ Finally, remember to click on the Wall Street Journal ad on The Public Speaker page at quickanddirtytips.com to get two weeks free on your print or online subscription. Thanks, for your all your support. I sincerely appreciate it.

Administrative .

If you have a question, leave a voice mail at 206-350-7970 . Or send e-mail to publicspeaker@quickanddirtytips.com. For information about keynote speeches or workshops visit lisabmarshall.com This Podcast was taken from http://publicspeaker.quickanddirtytips.com/

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It's a Small World After All

This is The Public Speaker: Quick and Dirty Tips For Improving Your Communication Skills . With your host, Lisa B. Marshall.

This episode is sponsored by The Wall Street Journal. Now you can support the The Public Speaker podcast and get one of the best business newspapers in the nation delivered to your home or office. To get two weeks free, visit the The Public Speaker page at QuickandDirtyTips.com and click on the Wall Street Journal ad to start your subscription today.

My mother-in-law, Maria, lives in Central America, but right now she's visiting with us. As much I enjoy having her here, we always tend to have difficulties communicating.

Here's an example conversation between us: Me: Hey, want something to eat?Her: Oh, good morning. How did you sleep?Me: Fine. What would you like for breakfast?Her: Hmm, what are you having?Me: Oatmeal. What do you want?Her: Well, oatmeal sounds good.Me: Don't you usually have toast and cottage cheese? Would you prefer that?Her: Well, I eat oatmeal too.Me: Would you like toast and cottage cheese?Her: Oh, thank you very much, I'd love that!As the conversation continues, each of us becomes more and more exasperated. I just want her to tell me directly, what she wants for breakfast, while she wants me to focus on our social relationship, the morning greeting ritual, and consensus.

Differing Cultural Expectations I know why this happens. Based on our cultural upbringing, we each have different communication expectations. And even though I am aware of our cultural differences, communication can still be difficult. But, I've found that understanding these differences seems to help. Maria, comes from a culture where social relationships are very important and people are expected to fulfill societal roles. For her, community, respect for position, and greetings are all very important.

I, on the other hand, come from a family culture where most of communication is task-centered. Decisions and activities focus around what needs to be done. Words are very direct.

My poor husband, Armando, hears it from both sides. I say to him, "I wish she would just tell me directly what she wants or needs. I can't stand the guessing game." And of course, Maria complains to Armando too. "Lisa doesn't even say good morning or ask how I am doing. Can't she at least greet me properly? Why is she so rude?" What I've noticed, is that our family situation is playing out more and more in the community around me. At work, at school, and even in our immediate families many different cultures are represented. It really is a small world, and it seems it's getting even smaller. If you want to work, play, and communicate more effectively it helps to understand cultural communication differences.

I recognize that no two people from the same culture will respond in the same way, but generalizations can help, in the sense that they are clues. This episode is intended to help you understand how culture impacts communication.

There's a model for cultural communication that I've found very helpful in framing the differences between my mother-in-law and myself. It was developed by an anthropologist named Edward Hall. He talked about the idea of high- and low-context communication cultures. Hall said that in high-context communication, in general, many things are left unsaid. And cultures that favor low-context communication will pay more attention to the literal meanings of words than to the context surrounding them.

High-context Communication In high-context communication, people are relational, collectivist, and intuitive. Less is verbally explicit or written. It is often used in long term, well-established relationships that depend on trust. Group harmony and consensus are preferred over individual achievement.

In general, context is more important than the words. This means subtleties in the tone of voice, facial expression, gestures, posture, and even the family's history and status all carry significant parts of the conversation. Talk around the point (not to the point) is typical.

Low-context Communication In low-context communication, people value logic, facts, and directness. People are individualistic and action-oriented. Discussions are based on facts and end with actions. Communicators are expected to be concise and efficient. People strive for precise words and intend them to be taken literally.

One thing that I think is important to note is that everyone uses both high-context and low-context communication at different times. Your cultural background, relationships, and circumstances dictate the extent to which you rely on the literal or the implied meanings.

Sequential or Synchronic Time Another cultural difference that affects communication is time. Some cultures view time synchronically. It is viewed as a force that can't be controlled; it's just a constant flow to be experienced. While other cultures think of time sequentially, a commodity to spend or save.

During one business trip I had meetings in both Germany and Spain. The difference between the countries in relationship to time was striking. In Germany, the meeting schedule was very precise; including start, end, and break times. And those times were very strictly adhered to. I still remember how surprised I was when the break time arrived and the speaker stopped talking quite abruptly. When I was in Spain it seemed almost like the opposite. Although the meeting was scheduled to start at 9:30, most attendees didn't start arriving until 10:30 or so. This was followed by an hour of socializing and then around noon, we finally starting talking about the business at hand.

So what's the bottom line? When it comes to communication, what's proper and correct in one culture may be ineffective or even offensive in another. Our culture tells us what is normal or what is strange or wrong. Of course, no one culture is right or wrong, or better or worse. They're just different. The key to successful cross-cultural communication is to develop an understanding and respect for the differences.

This is the Lisa B. Marshall. Passionate about communication your success is my business.

Hey gang, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to check out the free bonus resources I included in the administrative section of the transcript. Be sure not to miss the very interesting cross-cultural faux pas stories I included.

Need Your Help or perhaps you'd write an iTunes review. Also, if you've been enjoying The Public Speaker it would be great if you would consider voting for the show for the 2008 Podcast Awards at http://podcastawards.com/ Finally, remember to click on the Wall Street Journal ad on The Public Speaker page at quickanddirtytips.com to get two weeks free on your print or online subscription. Thanks, for your all your support. I sincerely appreciate it.

Administrative .

If you have a question, leave a voice mail at  206-350-7970 . Or send e-mail to publicspeaker@quickanddirtytips.com. For information about keynote speeches or workshops visit lisabmarshall.com This Podcast was taken from http://publicspeaker.quickanddirtytips.com/