Reunite with a Child Given up for Adoption

Dr. Laura: I’m Dr. Laura Schlesinger. Judy, welcome to the program.

Judy: Yes. I have a question for you. I’m 42 years old and I had a baby about 25 years ago. My parents sent me away and I gave the baby up for adoption. It was a closed adoption. Of course, now, they are opened and she went through a service, you know, to search for her biological mother and she’'s found me. I'’m not sure what I want to do. I’m happily married for 15 years. My husband and I never wanted children. He’s not even interested in having anything to do with a child I gave up for adoption.

Dr. Laura: I’'m sorry, and? Judy: And I'’m just kind of wondering what your take is on this. I mean, do you keep contact with them?

Dr. Laura: That’s a personal choice.

Judy: Yeah, well, it is. It’s kind of scary. You never know what they want either.

Dr. Laura: That’'s correct. Judy: Yeah?

Dr. Laura: That is a problem. Once you’'ve opened that door it sometimes leads to places you don’t want to be Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: and pressures you don'’t want to have. You gave her life where a lot of people just had their baby sucked into sinks. You gave her life. You didn’'t leave her in a trash bin. You gave her life and you gave her to a family and she had her life and you don'’t owe her. You may be curious, but curiosity killed the cat.

Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: So, if this is not something your husband wishes to join in with you and you’'ve never wanted to have kids, you may decide to pass on this. Judy: Right.

Dr. Laura: But don’'t operate just out of curiosity because it'’s not a door you open and slam close easily. Judy: Right.

That’'s what I'’m afraid of. Yeah. Okay. Well, thank you very much for your opinion. I appreciate it.

Dr. Laura: Well, thank you very much for being a hero and putting that child up for adoption and giving her life. A lot of people don’'t like to be inconvenienced and upset and so that'’s why you are a hero. Judy: Thank you very much. Thank you, Dr. Laura.

Dr. Laura: Take care. Bye, bye.

Judy: Bye.

Dr. Laura: I mean every syllable of that.